Why doesn't he do that anymore?

     3 main requirements for a healthy relationship, sexual or otherwise, is Respect, Trust, and Communication. I will touch base on all of these in this blog, but I want to start with Communication 1st as you cannot have anything without talking or in some way conveying your needs, wants, and desires. If you have a partner, you've probably gotten the hang of at least the basics.

     Lets take this a step further and apply it in the bedroom. Everyone is not built equal. The sooner you realize this and accept it, the better you'll be able to adapt. For example, when stimulating the clitoris, some woman can't handle direct contact from a finger and need an extra layer of skin, usually the hood. How would you know this? Hopefully she's communicated that to you in some way. In the same department, some men need the foreskin pulled up over the head, again, hopefully he's relayed that information to his partner.

     Now, what happens if this information isn't relayed verbally? You need to be sensitive to their physical reactions as well. . people use body language to convey feelings that they may not realize or feel comfortable verbally discussing. Pay attention to your partner. Go slow in the beginning and see how they respond. If you notice them pulling away or wincing, you may want to try a different approach. You could also ask how they like it to be done. Treat this in the same way that you would treat your penis or vagina. . sensitively. Be gentle when asking or maybe say to them that you find it a major turn on to watch them for a moment or ask if they would show you how they like it.     This is where Trust and Respect come into play. You have to trust your partner enough to believe they would never say anything to intentionally hurt you or make you feel uncomfortable. and you have to respect each other enough to understand that we're all only human and are fallible. Be honest and tell your lover if something they are doing isn't giving you the best feeling and trust that you're lover isn't trying to put your technique down, but convey that it isn't working for them.

    With open and honest Communication, you are well on your way to making your love making sessions that much more satisfying. Talk to your lover, believe they only want the best for you, and and respect them enough to let them know, gently, that they are off the mark just a bit and follow it up with a suggestion on how to improve their technique for you!

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Namaste